How much do our children mean to us? As a mother, I think our children are at the top of our priority list. They cannot be replaced, they make us proud, you love them unconditionally, you simply want them to be happy. Nobody else will ever know the strength of love that we have for our children. They are the only ones to know what our heart sounds like from the inside, imprinting on us immensely right from the start.
I have 2 wonderful sons, now in their early twenties, living their own unique lives independently. They will probably not understand, until they have children of their own, how loved and meaningful they truly are to me.
In those early years, I think a lot of us do not comprehend the significance that we make in our parents lives. It wasn’t until I become a mother, that I truly did appreciate and re-evaluate the extent of the relationship with my parents. I think it is then, that I finely appreciated and formed a lasting friendship with my own mother. To watch a grandmother display her love and affection to her new grandchildren, is the most beautiful and selfless act one could see.
My sons were fortunate to have been raised on a farm too, giving them the freedom and space to evolve. Boys and mud, went hand in hand, nearly every day. I remember when they were newborns, all I wanted to do was stare at their beautiful faces and tiny helpless hands. The love was overflowing, but also burdened with new responsibilities.
When my boys were toddlers and dragged along to cattle sales or farm outings, they would take their bag of matchbox cars and plastic farm animals. I was always amazed how they created their own fun and their personalities were coming through. They would make car tracks in the dirt and have pretend cattle sales in the background.
As they got older, there was always the inconvenience that they lived too far from town and never got to do the things that their peers were doing. But weekly sport involvement, weekend entertainment and other extra-curricular activities, ensured they were able to keep up with things the best way possible.
Then they mature and find their own paths in life. It gives me a sense of contentment and pride. My work is done. But they still need reminding in life, how much they are loved by us and that we will support them always. No matter how big they get, they will always be our babies in our hearts and our love will be eternal.
Our children need to understand that when we say “I love you”… this is not by habit… it is to remind them that they are the best thing that ever happened to us and they bring us so much joy. Mothers think about their children every single day at all hours, even if they are not with her.
There is no right or wrong way to raise children whilst ever we love them and want them to grow into loving respectful people. Doesn’t matter if we breast-feed or bottle-feed… a single parent or a couple… work full-time with childcare or a stay-at-home Mum… or even live in the city or country. One way is not better than the other. There is no competition needed.
Each family is unique and each child is unique and that is what makes our lives so interesting. No family is perfect… we all have our own problems and find our own way to work through them. As a parent, just do the best job you can with the knowledge and expertise that you have. And enjoy the process of raising your beautiful children to adulthood.
Take care, Karen.
“A mother holds her children’s hands for a while,
but their hearts forever.”
~ Author Unknown